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Meanwhile, I am a minister in a new city. I am supposed to minister.  But how do I start? DoraTasia Sexy Above The Knee Women's Mid Heel Boots I start this morning by walking.

I walked a mile around the apartment I am temporarily staying in.  It is early Sunday morning,CCparton Elegant Lady High Heel Pumps Pointed Toe Stiletto Patent PU Leather Women Wedding shoes High Heels so the streets are pretty much empty of souls, just the way I like it.  But it is a good time to begin ministering.  How does one do this?

I need to see the city for what it is.  This is not just a “little Portland” or a community that I can treat the same as my old one.  I have to look carefully to see what the city really is.  At times I will do this by comparison/contrast to the city I lived in for thirty years.  But I also just need to look at it.  Look at the butte (hey now, don’t misread), look at the traffic, look at the vegetation, look at the… ah, the trash.  Some things don’t change.

If I am going to minister to a person, I need to hear clearly what they are telling me. WHW Women's Spring Comfort PU Casual Flat Heel rome low heel Sandals,black,36In Spring and Autumn in high Heels Women's Chunky Heels Platform shoes Lace Thin shoes Who are they, what are their passions, what are their concerns?  As I walk, I am passing a woman with headphones walking the opposite way.  She moves away from me and looks to the ground.  Perhaps she isn’t feeling social.  Or perhaps she is nervous about the older white guy walking opposite to her.  I look away and give her the space she requires.  Sometimes staying away is the best way of serving another.

In my walk I saw an empty bottle in the middle of the street. I picked it up, figuring I could place it in recycling when I get back to the apartment.  Then I noticed an empty bag.  Ah ha.  So I picked up the bag and as I went on I slowly began filling it with trash.  Low to help casual female fashion shoes Breathable flat shoes Net gauze face a pedal lazy shoes hollowSpearss Elegant Women's Zipper Round Closed Toe High Heels Low Top Boots HotsellIt was about half full when I came back to my residence and I dropped it in the trash, putting the recycling in its proper place.  I have fed thousands of people before, but this morning my best act of love was picking up trash.  That’s enough.

The most important thing is to remember that I am not here to change this city, to change this congregation or to change this or that person.  I do not know what I can do.  This new path is a blank slate to me and I cannot impose my ideals or hopes onto it.  It is time for the path to lead me.  I am not just going to fit in a place that someone else has dictated to me.  But I am going to wait for God to show me my place.  That will probably stir up some dust, because that is what happens when God acts.  In the meantime, it is just me.  I need to stand aside and observe the bold actions, the coping mechanisms, the open wounds and the ill-fitting bandages. And then, eventually, I pray and seek my place.

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Two Fridays ago.. I jumped out of my Jeep and skipped up the curb into the park, after a long haired sweet gal that I have made friends with.

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She turned quickly with a smile, her hair flipped against the back drop of greenery and path.

And she said “Do you know how long its been since someone has said my name?”

Her entire body soften and her face light up like flowers in the sun, as she walked toward us.

She continued.. “I lose myself out here.. I forget my identity. My name. Who I was.”

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What she doesn’t know is the moment I found out her name, she went in a book of prayers and me and Jesus.. We say her name nightly.

Say their names until they are free.

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It was common practice in the ancient Mediterranean World to invite strangers into their home and to welcome immigrants to live on a property.

Jesus said that to welcome on of the “least of these” into our home is to be welcoming him.NZZNB Women's Bag Fashion Design Handbag Solid color Simple Soft Leather Shoulder Bag Charming Practical Mobile Phone Bag Satchel Tote Purse Top-Handle HandbagsWomen Canvas shoes Casual Flats Breathable Solid Solid High Top Women Casual shoes Sneakers

Hebrews, John and James all recommend taking in people without a home and “show hospitality” which means letting them stay overnight for at least one night.

And frankly, the homelessness crisis has grown to such an extent in some of our communities, that having people stay in homes with empty rooms is a reasonable and possibly necessary solution.JQSM Backpack Women Travel Bag Split Leather Backpacks for School High Capacity Backpacks Fashion Multifunctional Bags LadiesJOYBI Women's Rome Flat Gladiator Sandals Leisure Buckle Strap Comfortable Clip Toe Non Slip Ladies Casual Sandal

But we have heard stories and we have fears.  A local woman invited a homeless man to stay overnight in her apartment and she ended up dying in the encounter.  Other people have had items stolen from them.  To invite someone into your home to sleep is being vulnerable to them.  There is certainly a need to be careful and we should avoid naivety.  “Be as wise as a serpent and as gentle as a dove.”JQSM Cow Bag Handbags Women Famous Cowhide Sbody Bags for Women Messenger Bags Ladies Shoulder ToteKSOWE3KD Womens' Mens Lace Up Slip-On shoes Math Equations Science Geometry Funky Unisex Trainer shoes

My wife and I have had more than 60 houseless guests stay with us over thirty years, both when we had children in the house and when we did not. Some for a day, some for ten years. We have retained a balance between mercy and caution in this endeavor.  We saw it as a necessary act of our faith, but not a reckless one.

Taking precautions

I have learned not to let anyone in our house to stay overnight whom we didn’t know or who had a reference from someone we knew and trusted. This offers an indication as to whether a person is safe.  I usually did this by talking and working on common projects with people who live on the street.  Sometimes we had people over for a night or two because they came recommended by people we knew.

Before we had this rule, people staying over wasn’t always good. KSOWE3KD Woman Mens Jogging Canvas shoes Math Equations Scientific Formulas Fashion Unisex Cushioning shoesTiwcer Crystal Slippers Cut Out Summer Beach Sandals Women Slides Outdoor Slippers Indoor Slip On Flip Flops We have had people steal things from my home and I had people use drugs in my home. One time we welcomed a woman and her son who would prance around my living room in the nude and turn the heat up to 85 degrees. These were all people I didn’t know and so had no expectations as to what they would do in my home. One I made the rule that I had to understand what a person was like before inviting them in, these bad situations dropped to almost nothing.

I took in a couple who had written references from two churches from other towns. They were travelling through, and they needed a place to crash so we let them stay in our living room. In the end, we found out that the man was a habitual liar and was abusive to his wife. At the end of their stay, his reputation was ruined and she left him to go live with her parents. She is doing well. But this taught me that a reference from an unknown entity is worthless.17Cm Super High Heels Thick Sandals Female Fish Mouth Waterproof Table Sequins Hate Days High Catwalk shoesZLL8 Ladies Sequin Gretel Shallow-Mouth Pointed Stiletto Wedding shoes

I do not recommend a single person welcoming an unknown stranger into their home if they live alone. People adjust under social pressure, and that cannot be applied as a lone person. But two or more can uphold the standards of the home and make sure that a person who becomes unwelcome can be told to leave.

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Establishing boundaries

When a person comes to stay for you, have a list of rules ready. The actual list is up to you, but I would recommend that it include:

What they are welcome to (certain food, for instance) and what they are not (e.g., anything you keep in your bathroom).

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-Smoking, alcohol and drug use should be discussed (Our policy was smoking outside was okay, but alcohol or pot use had to be used off of our property. Illegal drug use was grounds for leaving.)

-What you want as payment for their stay (For longer term guests [more than a week], DoraTasia Leisure Suede High Heel Pointed Women's Pumps shoesHuhuj Winter wind flat heel platform lace boot of England round head retro student Martin boots women's bootswe asked that they work ten hours a week for us or our work among the homeless).

-Let them know about inviting guests over (e.g., all guests have to be gone by 11pm).

-Any specific issues that is unique for your specific household

Also let them know what is grounds for immediate leaving (e.g., any violent act, theft, disturbing the neighbors, use of drugs on the property).

This may be hard to go over with someone you basically trust, but if you have these rules written down or typed up, it will feel less personal, and just something that everyone has to agree to.

What to Expect
-A very grateful person, willing to do whatever is in their power to help.

-Someone who will forget the most important things you mentioned, even if they verbally agreed to them. Expect to have to remind them a few times about some of the rules that is counter to their normal way of doing things. (Like bringing dishes to the sink and rinsing them. I’m still reminding people about this!)

-Someone who will sleep longer than you think is good.Light dancing Women shoes Fashion Sneakers Black RedWomen's Flat Sandals,Bohemian shoes Ladies Slip on Flower Hemp Rope Clip Toe Flip Flops A person under chronic stress when they are finally safe usually has a wave of depression that hits them.

-Someone who will be discovering ailments they didn’t know they had until they got inside (diabetes, liver problems, chronic pain, and/or bone or skin injuries, for example).

-Someone who isn’t as motivated or energetic to help you or themselves as they indicated.

-A person who has a fifty/fifty chance to escape the trauma and drama and self-inflected pain they have been living with.

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-A change in your own attitudes and thinking. Naivety and fear will be replaced with wisdom and caution.

A fifty percent chance doesn’t seem like much for a person’s life to be changed. But it is better than a zero percent chance. Frankly, I can say that 3/4 of the people who left our home departed better than they came to it. That’s a pretty fair number, I think.

Ending the stay
When it is time for a guest to leave, make it clear what the reasons are and what time you expect them to leave. Unless the situation is dangerous, I would recommend that longer-stay guests be given more than a day to find another place to live. A few people I have had to ask to leave immediately. Short term guests I usually gave them a few days. Long term guests I usually gave thirty days. The final community we had I gave three years warning that we were closing and that everyone would have to leave. They all found places to live and jobs before the deadline.

Even if we are mad at someone, we need to end their stay fairly and at peace, as much as we can on our side.

Results

Dion stayed with us for a year. After staying with us that long, his family realized that he was a safe person and they invited him to live with them. Toby, after leaving our house, stayed with his sister, even though she didn’t have anything good to say about him before.

A few of our guests passed away in our house, or in the hospital after collapsing on our property. They lived their last days in peace.

Some of our guests left of their own accord because they couldn’t live a “straight” lifestyle. Some of these returned when they were ready.

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Stability is an open door to living better. Yes, we take a chance every time we invite someone into our house. But I have found the results to be worth it.

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Memories…

-When six police officers came to my church, handcuffed and seated ten people in the parking lot and threatened them verbally. Ten more officers came, with their lieutenant, who asked me, “Are you the pastor? Does your congregation want people like this here?” I pointed at all the people they had handcuffed and said, “They ARE my congregation.” The lieutenant turned to his officers and said, “We aren’t wanted here, let’s go” and they all released the folks and left. But not before the officer who started it all screamed at my face for “enabling these criminals.”

-The time an officer came to my church, harassing someone on my property. I calmly informed him that people who threaten others aren’t allowed on the property and he would have to stop or leave. He turned on me and said, “Sanctuary, what kind of a name is that”? I said, CHENSF Women's Winter Snow Increased BootWYMBS Women's shoes Fine with Autumn Winter Leather Boots High-Heeled Boots“It means a place that is safe for people to honor God.” “You mean safe from the authorities?” “Safe from anyone who threatens their well-being.” He huffed off.

-The time a group of officers came to move someone off of our property and they handcuffed and threatened the person in question. I told them not to threaten or harm him. An officer replied to me, “If you really want to help him, you’d send him to jail.” I replied, “Jail isn’t what he needs. He needs the freedom and opportunity to choose mercy and kindness. Jail takes away all choices, not allowing for any real change to happen.”

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Byron, a homeless Christian I know, told me, “The church is there to show God’s mercy as an opportunity.  When someone isn’t ready for mercy, then God hands them over to the authorities for judgment.

If we are helping people on the margins, we need to remember that the police are for judgement, not for justice.  When we call the police, we are enacting the wrath of the world upon the one we are judging, and we may very well be taking their lives in our hands.RAINIE002 Gladiator Women Sandal Peep Toe Hollow Out Lace Up Sexy Hollow Out Cross-Tied Pumpswoman Sandals Boot Black Size 40Women Pumps Thin High Heels Slip-On Office Lady shoes Mixed color Leather Wedding shoes Woman.

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A group of friends sat down in the park to have a picnic. The sun was bright, they laid down a couple blankets, they were teasing each other. They were laughing and enjoying each other’s company. Someone had brought a Frisbee and they were passing it around. AmazingKnight Women's high-top Martin Boots Autumn and Winter Plus Velvet Thick-Soled Short Boots Students Casual Short BootsQMFUR Women Real Fox Fur Open Toe Slide Slippers On Sandals Multicolor (12, Natural Raccon)They had just bought some hamburgers and were using the barbecue to grill it. Everyone was having a great time.

Suddenly, the police came and told them that the dispatch had received a call complaining about them so they had to leave. When someone asked, “Why? What did we do?” The police responded, “We’ve told you before, the park isn’t for you. It’s for our citizens.”

One of the men gets bold and says, “We are citizens. We live in this neighborhood.” They are told that they don’t pay taxes, so they had to go. A woman says, “What about our food? It will be ruined if it doesn’t finish cooking.”

The police say, “That’s not our problem. You have to go. Now.” They pack up to leave.

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What if you couldn’t partake of every day pleasures simply because you lost your job, because you didn’t have a home. This kind of story happens to tens of thousands of people everyday. The homeless are our children, our parents, our co-workers, they go to school with our children. As a society, we need to give the homeless a place to thrive.

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